Single and In Love?

(please excuse any typos in this post, i did something and lost my spell checker)

So single and in love....Is it possible? I think its possible...

My opinion about love it is a choice. Yes I think it is but at first no lie I didn't but I have realized over the years that love comes with effort and we choose who we put our effort into. We choose to let down our guards and get close to someone and let them love us or better yet allow ourselves to love.

Most of the time, me as a female, speaking from experience, we (I) love first. I give without expecting anything back, well not anything. I want love, respect, and honesty...everything else is a bonus. And when I do this I do have intentions of the single, unexclusive dating turning into something more. Well not at first. Sometimes I think I am not emotionally stable enough to just be single. I have been doing well though almost a year in October (there is some debate there)!

With this being said being single and in love isn't the worst but it isn't the safest thing because it is easy to get hurt. Giving someone your time and effort even with no titles while having fun is great but eventually that changes. You evolve relationship tendencies without the title.

Single with relationship tendency causes for confusion and unhappiness. It can be fun and exciting and motivating but eventually it evolves into more and you don't want to stay at the same level. You don't want to be 5 months in to something new and fun and still be at the same place you were at 2 weeks into whatever it is you are doing. What does that get you? Are you cheating yourself? Is it what you really want?

Lately I have been into Rob Hill Sr. (be sure to follow him on instagram @robhillsr and twitter) and I agree with him saying find someone to increase you and always be ready to build yourself! And I just feel staying at the same place doing the same thing for a long period of time isn't building.

So is being single and in love settling? I guess it isn't if it is what you want but it has to be what you want. You cant do it to please the person you are being single and in love with because even though it isnt a relationship with the title, you are still apart of some type of relationship, you are a factor  and your feelings do matter. It isnt wrong to voice that you want more or to leave what you were doing to go and find someone who wants the same thing that you want.


Then there is this side...being single and in love is the greatest feeling. You get to laugh and play and learn each other without the pressures of that title. It isnt forced it is just there. It isnt the movies or tv shows its real. Its what you and that person has agreed to do.

Then of course there comes the "it's so good I want more". I have a problem with this. You know just letting things be. I always feel there is a need for growth but then I have to realize you don't control the growth it just happens.

So when it comes to being single and in love.. I think it is very possible...I say do what makes you happy but be careful that you arent stuck somewhere you dont want to be or trying to force something that can be so simple.


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